Thank you for attending ‘The Truth About Work Life Balance’ with Enterprise Mobility on Nov. 7, 2024.
Thank you for the work you do day in and day out to support families and communities. I also appreciate you sharing your time and energy with me.
PLEASE TAKE A FEW MOMENTS TO COMPLETE THIS QUICK FEEDBACK FORM AND HELP ME IMPROVE HONE MY SKILLS. THANK YOU.
In this section you’ll find:
Important reminders about taking deep breaths,
The reminders and worksheet for “The Truth About Work Life Balance”,
The breakdown of The Butterfly Technique & Reticular Activating System,
The videos for my TEDx talks and other videos to support harmony in life,
The affirmations we used to get started,
A button to SUBSCRIBE to my FREE YouTube ‘Wisdom Wednesday’ personal growth videos,
Links to connect for speaking and coaching services,
Information about my book ‘Super Sparkly Everything’ and the upcoming ‘The Love Journey’ guided journal,
Information about an upcoming virtual Burnout workshop,
Book recommendations, and tips to improve quality sleep.
GO AHEAD & GET STARTED.
Take a Deep Breath
✦You can’t experience stress while taking deep breaths.
✦Pausing to breath allows the immune system to recalibrate.
✦Taking deep breaths promotes creativity & clarity of mind.
✦A consistent practice is proven to reduce stress, anxiety, depression, and worry.
✦A consistent practice is also proven to increase happy hormones to the body and brain, making us more mindful, easy going, and focused.
✦Incorporate the other things like gratitude, affirmations, mantras, prayer, etc.
We can’t balance the time we spend between work and life, but we can increase the quality of our lives and create more harmony by being fully present in every arena of our lives.
“The most powerful thing we have are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what that means, and what we are capable and deserving of. Those stories impact and influence the thoughts we allow to linger and take root, the words that we speak, and the actions that we take. Those stories dictate the relationships we have, and we interact in them. ”
“To put everything in balance is good, to put everything in harmony is better. ”
The Truth About Work-Life Balance
Intentional Living Tips:
1. Know and live your priorities and core values. To know what your starting point is and what’s important to you will help guide your decisions and actions.
2. Know and live your desires and dreams. To know where you’re headed changes HOW you move through the spaces of your life and also creates greater ease in decision making.
3. Start a daily check-in. Hold yourself accountable (with kindness) and make shifts as necessary.
Increase Quality Tips:
1. Prioritize your overall health. You cannot give what you do not have.
2. Cultivate a self-care mindset. Everything you do can contribute to your self-care, if you choose to see it that way.
3. Begin a gratitude practice. Studies show that a consistent gratitude practice makes everything we do better by creating a more positive mindset.
Create Happiness Tips:
1. Mind your business. Focus on what you have going on, creating the life you want, being intentional and being present. REMINDER: What other people think about you IS NOT your business.
2. Practice kindness. For yourself and others, this is a process and it’s new. It takes time.
3. Infuse fun into the spaces of your life. Choosing to actively create more fun at work and at home improves the quality of your life.
Click the IMAGE to download the worksheet pdf and more reminders for intentionality, quality and happiness.
The Butterfly Technique
Four Things are Needed for Change
Practice awareness. Pay attention and be aware of what is happening. Do not minimize it or maximize it. See it for what it is.
Ask questions. Ask yourself and others about what you do want. Knowing what we don’t want can help us get very clear about what we do want. Sometimes the only thing that separates ‘what is’ from ‘what is wanted’ is the right question.
Make a decision. Just one decision that feels more like peace is all you need to create a life you love. Be sure that the decision aligns with your values and priorities.
Take action. Not taking action causes greater anxiety, fear and stress. Take action. If you fail, be aware of that, question it and make a new decision. It is a delicious way to learn. If you take action and it’s a win, celebrate.
Rinse and repeat.
Reticular Activating System:
This part of the brain helps us find evidence of whatever we focus on.
When we shift our stories- our mindset, attitude and energy to the possibilities, to the positivity and to our potential, we activate this part of the brain to find evidence that supports that focus.
Use your reticular activating system in your favor by aligning your thoughts and words with the future and life you want to create.
Use your Reticular Activating System to your benefit: https://extension.umn.edu/two-you-video-series/ras
Want More Right Now?
TEDx Talk: Radical Acceptance
TEDx Talk: What's Good About This?
Do you love your priorities?
Mindset Moment: Plot Twist.
Why we should think of life as a playground.
Gratitude Changes Everything.
AFFIRMATIONS
Starting Affirmations: The words that we speak over ourselves and over our lives create our lives. I recommend using these examples to help inspire you to write your own affirmations in the positive, in the present, and in the first person. You can also record your affirmations in your own voice, as doing so, gives you the chance to hear your own affirmations, in your own voice, speaking back to you. If you find that a particular affirmation feels too disconnected from where you are now, please add “I am learning to OR I am learning that” to the beginning of the statement to create a bridge between where you are and where you are heading.
I am enough.
I am the creator of my life.
I am learning to make decisions that align with my priorities and core values.
I am learning to create harmony in my life.
I am learning to be intentional about my time.
I am learning to practice gratitude for the people, places, things and experiences in my life.
I am learning to love myself again.
I am deserving of clarity and peace.
I acknowledge that this is a process, and change takes time.
I look for and find reasons to celebrate everyday.
I practice minding my business.
I choose your decisions fully.
I am practicing being kind to myself, and others.
I’m learning to make my overall health a priority.
I am enough.
Speaking & Coaching
Click HERE to learn more about my speaking services. (schools, colleges, universities, businesses, conferences, events, retreats) Photo from She’s Local Central MA 2022
Click HERE to learn more about my coaching services. (women age 25+, one-on-one or small group, company small groups) Photo by Jordan Kines.
Book & Journal
Super Sparkly Everything
Click HERE to learn more about my first book ‘Super Sparkly Everything’.
My book, Super Sparkly Everything, was written for anyone who is where I was… feeling down and stuck and sick and tired of being sick and tired. I had to finally connect with something greater than myself and take personal responsibility for every area of my life. And it was hard! At that time, I only knew that it was hard work.
But the more that I did the work, the more that I figured out what worked for me and what didn't, the more that I gave myself permission to enjoy the process and to feel good about all of it, the better I started to feel. I started to feel more alive and centered.
So I wrote this book to either jump start, help or inspire you to give yourself permission to be happy.
To take responsibility for your happiness and to let it flow so that you can live a life full of joy, peace, health and love.
‘The Love Journey’ Journal
A guided journal for self-love.
Loving ourselves means freedom from the need of external approval.
It means understanding that we are ALWAYS evolving and changing, and we give ourselves room and permission to do so.
It means breaking old cycles that no longer serve us, creating boundaries that support our overall well-being, and cultivating healthy practices that build both.
It means not needing to compare or compete because we’re aware and confident enough to know that we are the only one of us and that is ENOUGH.
It means being able to give from an overflow of love and joy. That means healthier interactions and relationships. Getting back to a place where we love ourselves can feel challenging because we have to shift the momentum and transform our mindsets.
We can do that through intentional and consistent practices. I believe in starting small. Small steps are the most realistic and sustainable. On my own journey I began to realize the power in the minutia of our words. The words that we choose can support or sabotage the new and empowering stories we want to create.
Words. Small. One at a time. One a day.
From that personal practice and transformative experience, I give you- The Love Journey.
Burnout Recovery & Prevention Series
2 part virtual workshop series, just in time for the holidays.
Thursday, November 14, 2024 from 2:30p-4:30p EST
Thursday, December 19, 2024 from 2:30p-4:30p EST
One price for two 2-hour workshop sessions: Members $77. Non-members $99.
Become members of my FREE Mailing List to get the discount code to use at checkout.
Burnout has negative impacts on our mental health, overall health and relationships. It also increases during the holiday season. Join me for this 2 part workshop series to learn the proven techniques and tools that can help us, when put into practice, recover and prevent burnout so that we can live the lives we deserve and want, with more peace, joy, play, health and love.
Book Recommendations:
No Matter What! by Lisa Nichols
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Inciting Joy by Ross Gay
The Happiness Project by Gretchen Ruben
How We Show Up by Mia Birdsong
Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza
MetaHuman by Deepak Chopra
How To Be The Love You Seek by Dr. Nicole LePera
The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again by Catherine Price
Tips to Improve Sleep Quality & Thereby Improve Life Quality
Tips for Better Sleep:
Turn off any devices and get off social media 30-60 minutes before bed. Give the brain the disconnect it needs to slow down and prepare for sleep.
If you need to do something, do a gentle stretch or read.
Go through your night routine: say good night to the kids and kiss them, tell them you love them, hug them tight. Take care of you- wash up, drink water, prep gym bag. etc.
Be sure to take care of your basic needs.
Make your list of priorities for the next day and make sure you have whatever you need set up or ready. (No emails or checking work stuff.)
While doing the above, keep telling yourself how tired you are. Talk yourself into rest.
Try this sleep frequency and affirmation video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_Yw4SsNNOM
Turn on music with a sleep frequency: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PYUYvDQ55o
Brain dump in a journal anything that might be on your mind to capture it and give your brain permission to relax. Keep it near your bed in case you need to brain dump again.
Say good night to your body parts starting at the feet and working your way up or starting at your head and working your way down. "Good night toes, thank you. Good night ankles, thank you." etc. It might sound silly but it helps for a lot of people because it gives permission to rest and is a personal appreciation practice.
Create a mantra that will bridge the busy-ness of your brain to the ease of sleep. Inhale and say, 'restful sleep' and exhale and say, 'more sleep'.
Tell yourself that "I deserve to rest. I have permission to rest. I have permission to just be still. I'm healthier and happy when I am rested."
Say good night to your body parts starting at the feet and working your way up or starting at your head and working your way down.
Use the 4-7-8 breathing technique. Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 7 and exhale for 8. Best Breathing Exercise for Sleep
Remind yourself that creating a new new process takes time and a commitment to this process. Take it one day at a time and pay attention to how you feel.